Having chronic pain is something I am powerless over and can’t always manage. I have good days and bad days. The good days make me feel like I am able to function well, I feel healthy, and empowered to accomplish my goals and build relationships with people around me. On my not so good days, I see the pain and fatigue show up in my life limiting me from doing what I want, but still able to function overall. On the really bad days, I feel depressed, get tired of crashing, and seek the quick and often unhealthy escapes.
Powerlessness is what happens physically to my body. Fibromyalgia has a path of its own that I don’t always understand. Certain activities and situations can draw me into an overwhelming sense of fatigue and pain that at times can catch me off guard. Though I can limit this pain to some degree by watching my stress, exercising, being healthy, managing activities, it will always be there ready to be activated. Sickness and unintended stress can sometimes seem to come from no where, causing me to become more aware of this thing inside my body.
Unmanagability is what happens in my life because of my chronic pain. When my fibromyalgia is in full force my life can revolve around my pain and fatigue and often other areas get neglected. The more I try to control it,it can just make it worse as too much activity just wears me down. When things feel totally out of control, I seek to escape this feeling and don’t always have the capacity to make good choices. I get really tired and can’t think straight, and don’t always care anymore to make the needed effort.
As depressing as this all sounds to me, seeing the reality allows me to look for a new solution. I can be aware of what is beyond my own ability, and surrender this to God, a spiritual power, to the earth, to friends, or something that brings a sense of release. Then I look at what I can do to keep my fibromyalgia in check as best as I can, and prepare for those days where life seems to sweep me under. Often for me this is finding my support network, reaching within myself and seeking something spiritual. If something isn’t working, seeking the truth of it, allows me to search for something better. May today, I focus on what brings me peace and health, and prepare myself for the darker days with grace, wisdom and compassion.