November 9, 2013
I have enjoyed using my phone as a quick way to check in with friends when life seems overwhelming or to encourage me in my day. I find if I send a text to a friend before doing something stressful, than I have more strength for the journey. If I have a rough day, or feel upset by something I can give a quick vent, and continue to address what I need to do. I have a few friends that are also my texting friends, where we check in with each other periodically. Texting is quick, can be done in a minute or two, and readily available.
As much as I love texting, it only works for me as a supplement for relationships that are already strong. The reason it works, is because it supports conversations we have already had, and a relationship that has been built by regular visits and conversations. It is meant for the positive, not for debates or conflicts – this is much better dealt with in person. It feels like twitter – where you give a few sentences reminding you of what is most important.
November 7, 2013
I had a great conversation with my friend, Lavelle, yesterday. It was one of those conversations where you are completely in tuned with one another, and understand where the other person comes from. There were many times I couldn’t believe she was expressing exactly what I felt or had been thinking about. She is insightful, smart, always wanting to learn and grow, and makes me laugh. I am so grateful to have Lavelle in my life. We have gone through many challenges over the years, and somehow we seem to keep coming back to a common place. Thanks Lavelle.
In my life of chronic pain, I have found that friends and support are extremely valuable. Though not everyone understands my pain and the physical problems I go through, I have many friends that keep me going through the day to day stuff. I have other friends that are involved in my soccer world, friends that center around my children, and friends I have met in groups I am part of. Many of my family members also feel like friends, sharing a common bond.
I may not always understand why some friends last for a season and others for the long haul. Often it seems to be a willingness to work through what comes our way, common values, and to be open minded in forgiving. Most of my relationships have gone through conflict, some pretty difficult ones. When there is communication we can move forward, learn about ourselves and others, and move towards healing. Willing to look into how we contribute to the problem and what issues may be related to something else seems to help. Also being willing to give some grace and compassion, realizing many things in life aren’t always understood and don’t always need to be talked through. Some areas of life we may not agree upon, and it doesn’t help to keep hashing it out or trying to change a person’s point of view. Keeping focused on the strengths of the other person and how they enrich my life is helpful, humor is also of great benefit.