I had a great conversation with my friend, Lavelle, yesterday. It was one of those conversations where you are completely in tuned with one another, and understand where the other person comes from. There were many times I couldn’t believe she was expressing exactly what I felt or had been thinking about. She is insightful, smart, always wanting to learn and grow, and makes me laugh. I am so grateful to have Lavelle in my life. We have gone through many challenges over the years, and somehow we seem to keep coming back to a common place. Thanks Lavelle.
In my life of chronic pain, I have found that friends and support are extremely valuable. Though not everyone understands my pain and the physical problems I go through, I have many friends that keep me going through the day to day stuff. I have other friends that are involved in my soccer world, friends that center around my children, and friends I have met in groups I am part of. Many of my family members also feel like friends, sharing a common bond.
I may not always understand why some friends last for a season and others for the long haul. Often it seems to be a willingness to work through what comes our way, common values, and to be open minded in forgiving. Most of my relationships have gone through conflict, some pretty difficult ones. When there is communication we can move forward, learn about ourselves and others, and move towards healing. Willing to look into how we contribute to the problem and what issues may be related to something else seems to help. Also being willing to give some grace and compassion, realizing many things in life aren’t always understood and don’t always need to be talked through. Some areas of life we may not agree upon, and it doesn’t help to keep hashing it out or trying to change a person’s point of view. Keeping focused on the strengths of the other person and how they enrich my life is helpful, humor is also of great benefit.